I am what most people would consider a “girl boss” an “independent woman” and all those other kitchy terms used to describe a woman who doesn’t need a man in her life that has all of her ducks in a row. I have my own company in a male-dominated industry and all of my clients are men and all of my employees are men. It’s just the way that it is because I have yet to receive a resume from a woman in this field.
Anyways what I want to discuss is the entire “MeToo” movement. And to be honest, I HATE IT! I feel that it is the absolute worst thing to have happened to women and has set women back tremendously.
For starters, this entire “MeToo” movement has made women come across as we are winey, vulnerable and unable to handle a situation. Speaking from my own experiences in work, school, life, and anything …. have men been inappropriate to me? YES!!!! An ASTOUNDING YES!!!!! But you know what I did, I stood up for myself and confronted them RIGHT AT THAT MOMENT, or after at an appropriate time. I didn’t wait for weeks, months or YEARS to handle the situation, but at that moment. Which is one thing that I can’t stand with this “MeToo” movement. It bothers me how some women have lost credibility when it comes to these situations such as the Jian Ghomeshi case. This is what frustrates me the most! I am a very small, I am a young woman who has ALWAYS held my OWN! If you saw me you would think I was a kid. This movement has just made women look powerless when we are not! And for me to hear trials going on and then having it be exposed that women are reaching out to the culprits makes me FURIOUS!! All that these women do is it take away any credibility from women who actually had serious situations occur which need to be dealt with.
Now in Hollywood, (I hate Hollywood and I just look at it as a massive embarrassing circus) I have to hear that Rose McGowan is the “face” of the “MeToo” movement? (my eyes cannot roll back any further) WHAT? Excuse me? Is this the same women who used to date Marilyn Manson and wore a dress of tassels to an award show? What? But she is the face of this movement in Hollywood? Cool. I don’t even think I need to go into detail of how stupid this one looks. Couldn’t Hollywood have chosen a non-botched, confident, classy more appropriate face to this movement? Why not Natalie Portman or Meryl Streep? Rose McGowan is so delusional she thinks she got “blacklisted” from films because of Harvey Weinstein. Maybe she needs a hardcore reality check and realize she’s in a highly competitive industry and her botched face and lack of talent may be the actual reason auditions aren’t jumping at her. Would I hire her? HELL to the NO!!
Anyways, enough of the Rose McGowan bashing and let’s get back to the point. Are there men who take advantage of their position? Yes. I’m not saying these types of pigs don’t exist. Of course they do. Are there men who are respectful, YES! I am now in my mid-thirties and I work 100% of the time with men. And I can honestly say I have never felt disregarded for my age or for my gender in any meeting or business venture when I am the youngest and only female at the table of all men. And it makes me wonder why is it that I can say this and other women can’t? Maybe it’s because as women we are taught at a young age to be polite and sweet to others? I’m not saying I’m not polite (I’m a really nice person despite how I come across in this post) I don’t know what it is, but I can say I have never EVER been a victim and it is only because I never let any comment or action proceed any further than at that moment.
Unfortunately, due to the entire MeToo movement, I feel that this has set women back. I feel it will be a greater challenge for women to find jobs, especially in male-dominated industries like my own. It’s become a liability to hire women! And I am saying that as a woman! I have always been a confident assertive woman in the workforce despite my stature and my age. I never cry, I never wine and I never ever allowed a pervert talk to me in an inappropriate way no matter what role he had.
I hate the #MeToo movement. I wish it started off in a different way. Not with washed-up actresses being opportunists. Not with uncredible women crying “MeToo” when they didn’t have proper evidence and made a mockery of the entire situation. I wish it could start all over again with new faces, different cases and a stronger point behind the meaning of “MeToo”. Instead of “MeToo”, I wish it was called “F$^&You”. But I’m pretty sure that would be censored in the first 5 minutes.
Anyways how do you feel the “MeToo” movement has looked like? Do you think its helped women or set us back?
CandidBlonde Xx
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